‘Take back your ring’: Woman Cancels Wedding After Her Fiance’s Family Refuses to Uninvite His Ex

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 8, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Usually when two people get to the stage of their relationship when they've already planned their wedding, you assume you know a person, and that things are pretty stable. You assume you know anything about them that would be a deal breaker, but with some people, these things take time. 

Take this Reddit story as an example: the couple is engaged to be married and making all their wedding preparations. The woman finds out that her fiance's ex has been invited to the wedding. He claims it's his family that invited her, that it's 'tradition' to invite exes if they've stayed close to the family. Sounds a little ridiculous to me.

Even after this woman has expressed her discomfort with the situation, her fiancé still chooses his ex over her, saying it would be 'rude' to uninvite her. Now his true colors show, and his priorities in life. I don't blame her for leaving. 

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    r/AITAH 6 days ago Superb Target9054 AITA for Cancelling My Wedding After Finding Out My Fiancé's Ex Is Invited by His Family?
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    I (27 f) and my fiancé, Alex (30 m), have been engaged for a year and were planning our wedding for the end of the summer. Everything was going smoothly until a couple weeks ago when Alex's family dropped a bombshell.
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    Alex's family is very close-knit and has always been involved in our wedding planning. Recently, I have found out that they have invited Alex's ex, Sarah (29 f) to the wedding. Alex and Sarah were dating for about 5 years and broke up about 2 years ago. They're still on good terms, but I was never comfortable with the idea of her being at our wedding.
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    When I brought this up to Alex, he said that it's a family tradition to invite former partners of they're still friends, and that it would be rude to exclude her. He insisted that it's no big deal and that Sarah is just a part of their extended social circle. I tried to explain that having Sarah at our wedding made me feel uncomfortable and undermined
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    the significance of the event for me.
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    Alex's response was that I was being unreasonable and selfish for not considering his family's feelings. He argued that it would cause unnecessary drama if we uninvited Sarah now and that we should just focus on enjoying the day. I couldn't shake the feeling that this wasn't just about inviting an ex but also about my place in
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    Alex's life and whether I was truly a priority.
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    After a lot of back-and-forth, I decided that I couldn't go through with the wedding under these circumstances. I cancelled the venue and all the plans we had made, explaining to Alex and his family that I couldn't commit to marrying someone who wasn't willing to respect my feelings about such a significant issue.
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    Now, Alex and his family are furious with me. They believe I am overreacting and that I should have been more accommodating. Some of my friends and family think I did the right thing, while others feel I might have acted too impulsively.
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    So AITA for cancelling my wedding after finding out that my fiancés ex was invited by his family?
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    Edit: Wow guys, I never expected this post to blow up the way it did. I'm trying to respond to as many comments as I can but thank you all for the unwavering love and support
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    Comprehensive_V... 6d ago why his family is sending. invites? And how would have they felt if you had invited one of your exes as a "family tradition".
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    Nervous-Tea-7074 • 6d ago NTA - if this was such a prized tradition, why didn't they actually tell OP from the start? Nah that family was defo trying to make something happen.
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    SultrySunset • 6d ago NTA. This wasn't just about an ex being invited; it was about how your feelings and boundaries were respected. A wedding is a union of two people, not an obligation to adhere to family traditions that make the bride uncomfortable. If this issue
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    couldn't be resolved amicably, it's better to rethink the relationship altogether.
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    Charrbard 6d ago Thats a weird family tradition. Unless they do it just for the chance at some drama.
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    He sounds like a But usually with stuff like this is more a tipping point than the first blip of conflict. So you know you're in the right. Question would be, why ignore the signs? People generally telegraph their behavior and rarely do complete 180s out of no where.
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    BeachinLife1 • 6d ago You've been planning a wedding for a year, and they wait till now to spring this "tradition" on you? Doesn't pass the smell test.
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    Awkward-School-... 6d ago NTA! But I'm questioning the timeline...they dated 5 yrs and broke up 2 yrs ago..you have been engaged for a yr..how long after the break up did you fiancée meet you?
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    RedLionPirate 76 6d ago "Sorry, it's my family tradition to cancel weddings when the groom's family invites his ex. It's no big deal."
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    MyyWifeRocks • 6d ago NTA you canceled their - wedding. Now go find someone that respects you and have YOUR wedding.
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    wri... 6d ago • Edited 6d ago Who wants to bet there will be a post in a year that Alex and Sarah got hitched? ②
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    Magdovus • 6d ago Well done. Tolerating that kind of disrespect would just set the tone for your whole marriage.
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